In this season of Thanksgiving we put an amazing amount of pressure on us and our families to have it look a certain way, feel a certain way, make up for lost years, have it be the best ever..
It's too much.
As we look ahead to a Thanksgiving feast, let us be mindful of what we can feel grateful for. Gratitude is a habit, a practice, one, if cultivated early, is a life long companion.
No matter our struggles or our pain, gratitude can walk alongside. Sometimes it means we have to dig very deep to find a "thanks" in the midst of the difficult. Dig deep.
Help your children learn how to be grateful, practice gratitude in front of them, say aloud what blessings you have.
Our children are a mirror and sometimes what we reflect isn't pretty. Do better. Be grateful.
Here is a nightly ritual that helps conversation, connection and family togetherness.
Have each person go around the table and state:
~1 hard thing from the day
~1 great thing from the day
~1 hope for tomorrow.
Mom and Dad, offer no corrections, no put downs. It's a window into your child's world. Offer empathy, encouragement, understanding.
When we ask how was school today and they answer " fine"
we have learned nothing.
May you have a grateful Thanksgiving time.
See below a list of other questions that can help you and your family be connected.