But I don't know how....
Many of us didn't have parents who "played" with us. Many tell me they aren't sure how to go about it. Here are some tips- please note, criticism or correction aren't part of this.
Try this for a 10-15 minute period.
Labeled praise specific- You choose great colors, I like it when you build quietly
unlabeled praise - great, that’s nice, good job
Labeled is more effective, it lets the child know exactly what you like
Increases the behaviors that it describes.
Increases self esteem and makes both parent and child feel good.
This is for reflecting your child’s appropriate talk- by repeating or paraphrasing "Yes, that is a blue crayon."
Allows your child to lead the conversation
and shows child you are really listening
Helps you learn to listen and
shows you accept what child is saying.
Improves and increases child’s speech and language
(This approach may seem awkward at first)
After a question, it is better to answer than to reflect the question.
Imitate your child’s play
Helps you keep your attention and comments focused on what the child is doing
Helps you play right at your child’s developmental level
lets child lead the play
Make the play fun for the child
Shows your approval of your child’s activity choice and
teaches the child how to play well with others, taking turns.
Describing your behavior or the toys you are using can make the play interesting and fun BUT describing what your child is doing is especially important because it gives specific attention to your child’s positive behavior
State exactly what the child is doing "You are drawing a sun"
It is like a running commentary:
This models speech and teaches concepts and vocabulary.
It also holds your child’s attention on the activity and teaches child to how his attention on the activity
Enjoy special time with your child
Act happy when you are playing with your child.
Convey enjoyment by: tone of voice, laughter, smiling, Positive touch, statements of such.
This increases the warmth of the play and
makes it special and more meaningful for the child.
PRIDE: Relationship Enhancement Strategies; Developed by Eyberg, S, McNeil, C, & Urquiza, A (2004) US Davis CAARE Center