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July 5, 2019

The word trigger has become a bit of a buzz word. Let me break it down for us.

It comes from the Dutch word Trekken which means to pull.

Google tells me that one of the definitions is to cause an event or situation to happen. Synonyms include activate, set off or trip. 

I...

June 7, 2019

 I recently saw this quote from Rumi and it got me to wondering.

If you were to pick from the three, which one would characterize your daily walk.

As I consider my journey as a mother, I believe I began as a lifeboat- a helpless infant fully dependent on me for food, com...

May 24, 2019

      As summer vacation is near and some of us have more unstructured time with our children....

Imagine for a moment --you know that you have warned, cajoled, urged, nagged and did all you could to make her/him clean up the mess that is their room.

     You h...

I may be one of the few people I know that does not begrudge my Catholic school days. Yes, I too have horror stories about shame and ridicule from the sisters of St Francis de Sales.  And yet despite their poor treatment of us pathetic young souls, I knew the God that...

April 23, 2019

What comes to mind when you hear the word mood?

For many of us, it isn’t good. The assumption is that it’s a bad mood- one to avoid, tip toe around, make better.

How does this happen?

Why do I hear on a weekly basis that spouses fear their partner’s mood?

How did we get to...

March 2, 2019

Clearly the title is a reference to driving the freeways in and around Southern California. Yet it can also be applied to our daily lives outside of our homes and cars.

What does it mean to stay in one’s lane?

Those of us old enough to remember the phrase “mind your ‘p’s...

February 1, 2019

What comes to mind when you hear the word Influence?

Influence as in Under, DUI, drunk driving? Or maybe we worry that our teens are too influenced by social media, their friends, what is current?

Influence is an interesting topic and often misunderstood.

Ask yourself wha...

January 22, 2019

For many of us, the idea of talking freely to another person without fear of judgement is non existent. 

If our heartache involves a friend or relative, we don’t believe we can talk to them about it.

If we are ashamed of our worry or we fear that our story is dumb, we wo...

December 12, 2018

Our lives are not our own…. I am reminded of this when I attend a funeral for a very young woman who leaves two young adult children; or a colleague who leaves a grieving wife and many clients who came to appreciate his calm and wise demeanor.

We all know that life is s...

December 1, 2018

Gottman methods are gold. My goal is to employ his principles when working with a couple.They are proven. Here is one that is vital for marital satisfaction.

Repair Attempts- so many arguments would never get off the ground if we all learned to stop and try again. 

We ge...

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